Single

It’s not a dirty word!

Lately I’ve been having a great time dating. I know it sounds crazy and honestly it’s a first for me. I grew up not wanting to get married and not wanting to have kids. I didn’t like dating when I was younger but I was always intrigued by the connection between men and women. I also secretly wished (almost) every guy was “the one”. I spent most of my twenties and early thirties in relationships and for the better part of the last few years I’ve been single. It’s been awful, lol, because I needed to fall in love with myself first.

Lesson #1

So I took the time to work on me, I recognized all the ways in which I love on myself and am shown love by others. I fell in love with myself and my life, I put myself first and enjoyed the freedom, serenity and joy that being single can bring. There’s so much we overlook when looking for someone to fill a space that may not need to be filled.

Lesson #2

I remember a few birthdays ago calling a girlfriend freaking out because I was old and didn’t have a husband/boyfriend/prospect and wasn’t even practicing the art of getting pregnant. She calmly reminded me of all the things I don’t have to deal with since I don’t have husband/boyfriend/prospect/kids. The laughter that came from the joy of that perspective I will never forget. I have held on to that ever since and laugh out loud in real time at the memory often.

Lesson #3

Author: Cherrón